Oral sex: a steamy art that can bring partners closer than ever. Here are 5 tips to help make it breathtaking
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When it comes to giving oral, there’s no right or wrong way to do it. Giving a knee-shaking, spine-tingling blowjob doesn’t only have to be a sensational experience for the person receiving, but can make the person giving feel equally empowered by trusting their own sexual intuition. And it can be equally hot to practice the act on a strap-on while you lock eye contact with a partner.
So, while there’s no definitive guide – apart from doing it safely - there are a few tricks of the trade that we can teach you to try out with your partner(s) next time you’re getting down low (or even standing up).
Please remember, enthusiastic consent from everyone involved is another key part of any sexual experience!
When it comes to giving oral, there’s no right or wrong way to do it
1. Don’t overthink it
Tip number 1: don’t overthink it. Remember, the person you’re with is turned on by you. You shouldn’t feel pressure to perform perfectly, so try not to worry about whether you’re doing it right or not. The more relaxed you are, the more natural and comfortable it can feel.
Ease yourself into it and be confident. They’re probably going to love the fact that you are down there. So just remember, you’re both in control, have fun and relax.
Bonus tip: just keep talking
If you are uncertain about your technique or whether they are enjoying it, talking with your partner(s) and getting feedback can be very helpful. Don’t be afraid to stop and ask what they like and don’t like, what they’re enjoying and what they’re not so much.
2. Slow is sexy
Tip number 2: start slow. It’s worth remembering that the best blowjobs aren’t always over in a flash; don’t rush in, start slowly. Yes, keeping a regular rhythm with your mouth can help build up to a mind-blowing orgasm, but there’s no need to endlessly bob your head up and down.
Starting off slowly will not only give you time to acclimatise and find a workable rhythm, but it will also mean you can make the blowjob more sensual, last longer, and help make the whole experience more memorable.
Bonus tip: vary the depth
Now we’re not saying you need to dive in with a deep throat, but why not play around with depth? Try changing between shallow sucks (with just the tip of the penis or strap-on between your lips), and deeper ones. You could start with all shallow, then move on to a mix of shallow and deep once you’ve built your confidence up.
3. Use your hands
Tip number 3: Don’t forget to use your hands. Yes, it’s called a blowjob, and you might be using your mouth, but why not make use of your hands too? Sure, there’s something to be said about a hands-free blowjob, but why waste your versatile and dexterous digits?
Try gently playing with other erogenous zones like the scrotum, running your fingers up their thighs, or feeling the rest of their body as you pull them closer to you. Using a lube can also be a real turn-on and help you slide your hands along the lower part of the shaft while you focus your mouth on the top.
Bonus tip: all hands in
The thought of going deep can be pretty daunting. If taking it all in isn’t your thing, try holding the base with your hand and moving it up and down in time with your mouth. This can help give the sensation of going deep without making it uncomfortable for you.
Ready to sweeten each other up? When it comes to oral sex, edible lubes can sweeten and smoothen your experience for some truly juicy oral fun. Plus, it feels even more pleasurable for the giver and the receiver.
4. Get inventive
Tip number 4: Giving good oral should be about the whole experience. Think about where else you can kiss, caress and suck across all the different erogenous zones. And, if you want to create a surprising and seductive moment, why not catch your partner off-guard when they walk in the door? With enthusiastic consent, of course, the element of surprise can be a real turn-on. Oral sex can also be playful as well as sensual, so try adding some extra, toys and textures for added stimulation.
Bonus tip: take the full tour
Before you even begin, try exploring their body with your mouth first. Gently kiss their stomach and thighs before finally letting your lips touch the tip. The build-up and suspense should really get both of you in the zone.
Once you do get down to the sucking, try licking the whole length of the penis or strap-on with your tongue. If you fancy it, making eye contact while you do this can be a real turn-on – very sexy.
5. Enjoy yourself
Tip number 5: and this is key– enjoy yourself! If one of you isn’t enjoying the experience, communicate with your partner and see how you can make it breathtaking for both of you. Let them know what you’re feeling and ask them what they’re enjoying. And if you are enjoying it, don’t be afraid to show them (or moan it in their ear).
Bonus tip: give yourself a break
Don’t worry, pausing for a break doesn’t have to mean ruining the moment. Add a little excitement by coming up for a kiss, using your hands for a bit, or touching yourself – this is about both of you having a good time after all.
Keep a little water by the bed and take a few sips to keep your mouth moist. Not only does it make it easier for you and ensure you get regular breaks, but the change in temperature can feel great for them and open them up to a world of new sensations.
And that’s it. Our top 5 tips (and 5 bonus tips) for giving an amazing blowjob. Still unsure but want to know more? In this video, the lovely Suzanne elaborates on our top tips and tricks to help set you on the path to some sensual and exceptional sucking.
