Who’s the boss? Finding ways to explore sexual dominance.
OWN THE MOMENT
In an age where safe sexual freedom is embraced within society, there’s never been a better time to explore sex and learn to really satisfy your burning desires. Becoming the sexiest possible version of yourself is great fun for not only you, but everyone who encounters your new sexy ways.
Being dominant means...whatever you want it to mean! So go on and look at seven satisfying tips we must share on how you can get there!
Exude confidence
One thing you can show is confidence. You might ooze confidence during a presentation at the office, but it's a totally different ballgame when it comes to sex. It's hard to be open with your sexuality—for anybody—because you feel vulnerable to rejection. Think about times when you’ve felt confident and take part in activities that develop this feeling. Remind yourself that others are attracted to you for a reason and go for it!
"Is it hot in here, or is that just you?"
Listen up
Everyone needs to feel safe with and heard by a sexual partner, whether in a serious, long-term relationship or a new or casual one. Listening to your lover’s needs, in and out of the bedroom, and responding sensitively will make them feel at ease and secure enough to open to you about how much or how little they want in terms of being dominated, sexually.
Give commands
A great place to start being dominant over your lover is by giving subtle commands and, when they are ready for you to up the ante, slowly building up to more forceful demands. There are many great sex games you can come up with.
Start small. For example, tell your partner that you are going to kiss them wherever you want on their body, and they are not allowed to move a muscle. The ball is in your court, remember, so you’re free to come up with your own “punishment” if they disobey!
Switch positions
Reading sex stories or the Kama Sutra together is a great way to get the ball rolling in experimenting with dominating sex positions. Set time aside to share some positions that you feel will be best suited and excite you and your partner(s) the most. That way you’re in a relaxed, comfortable environment and on a level-playing-field.
Learning what others want is crucial to dominating them during pleasure time. Ask them which of the positions they’d like you to dominate. Remember… the more fun they have when trying them out, the more fun you will have.
Accept help
Bringing sex toys into play time is a great way of keeping things sexy and new. Try gently grazing a vibrating massager over each other’s sensitive parts but make it clear that you are going to be in control of the device, first.
Leave the handcuffs at the door
Being dominant sexually doesn't mean you have to invest in whips and chains. These are purely symbolic props. You can keep it simple by telling your partner(s) not to move. But if you are ready to add a layer of excitement, go ahead and include some items from your box of tricks to the mix.
Talk dirty
Use your finger (or tongue) to trace a word on your partner's body and have them guess. If they guess correctly, perform the move. If they guess incorrectly…choose the appropriate “punishment”.
And there you have it…a few simple tips to help you become more dominant. Taking the lead in sexual play doesn't mean being a sadist or demeaning your partner. It doesn't mean you have to change who you are, either.
You're simply connecting with a stronger more powerful side of yourself that was always there and sharing it with others who are similarly in tune. It's about closeness and connection, not cruelty.
