Finding it tough to reach the Big O? Try these out
Making Waves
When it comes to the Big O (AKA earth-shattering orgasms), it’s not always as simple as we think. For many people, particularly those with erogenous zones like the clitoris, penetrative sex alone may not be enough to reach a climax. Some may prefer toys, oral sex, or fingering: there are countless ways to feel good. And, while sex doesn’t have to be measured in the ability to orgasm, if you are looking for some position tips to help you climax, we’ve got a few up our sleeves.
Just remember, there’s no one way to do it and if a position doesn’t feel right to you and your partner(s), you can try things out with consent to see what works for you.
For many people, penetrative sex alone doesn’t result in a climax
1. Revamped Missionary
If you don’t usually orgasm from penetration alone or prefer to have non-penetrative sex, this one might just be for you. Begin in the missionary sex position, with you on your back and your partner on top of you. Have them pull their body up towards your head so that their pelvis is slightly higher than yours. You can also put some cushions underneath your hips for more support.
From here, they can move their body in more of a gentle grinding action or figure of eight against your pelvis. This can help to stimulate areas like the clitoris and feel good for both of you. It’s a good idea to consider trying some lube for a more sensual experience and if you do move into any kind of penetrative sex, the person on their back can place their legs on their partner’s shoulders for deeper penetration. Want an extra buzz? Give textured condoms a go.
2. Revamped On Top
Similar to the Revamped Missionary, but for this one, you swap places with whoever was on top last time. From here, simply straddle your partner forwards or backwards, so you’re facing their face or feet. You can grind against their body, lean into different angles and if you are having penetrative sex, control the rhythm, depth, and angle of penetration.
Your partner can run their fingers down your back, caress your erogenous zones and body as you move together, or use a sex toy.
3. Downward Doggy
Start on your hands and knees, as a partner kneels or stands behind you. In this position, you’ve got loads of options for mind-blowing orgasms. The person behind can gently kiss their partner’s erogenous zone and build into oral sex. Perhaps you’ll want to try a toy or some lube for extra stimulation. And, if you’re having any kind of penetrative sex, they can hold onto your hips as they move.
To change the angle of penetration, get down on your elbows. The intensity of this position could allow for stimulation of the elusive G-spot. Another option is to lower your chest to the bed as you leave your hips high in the air and your partner crouches low. You or your partner can then stimulate sensitive areas while moving together.
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4. The Bridge
This is another position that could help bring you or your partner closer to an orgasm. Begin by lying on your back as a partner kneels in front of you. Whilst on your back, bend your knees and place your feet flat on the bed, then arch your hips up towards the ceiling, so you’re in the shape of a low bridge.
Your partner can then use their mouth, hands, toys, whatever feels good for you, to bring you closer to that Big O. And, if you’re having penetrative sex, they can step into the space between your legs, holding your hips to use them as leverage.
5. Sideways Spoon
As well as being sensual and intimate, as your partner will be cuddling you from behind, this can be one of the easiest positions for dual stimulation. Lie on your side with your partner behind you so that you’re both facing the same direction, as you push your bum towards them.
You can touch yourselves, gently press a vibrator to your favourite spots or, if you’re having penetrative sex, the person behind can reach around and stimulate all those important erogenous zones.
And last but not least, positions with an honorary mention include kitchen tables (that aren’t too high) and sturdy, supportive chairs you can straddle your partner on. You can also lean against a wall, while the person leaning wraps a leg around the other. So try things out, see what works, and find the way to your best climax.
