How to masturbate for men and people with penises

Jerking off. Spanking the monkey. Having a wank. However you want to describe it, penile or male self-pleasure is an easy way to relieve stress, explore your body and reach new heights of excitement and gratification.

96 percent of British men masturbate, making it an (almost) universal experience amongst people with penises. Whether you want to level up your solo skills, learn more about masturbation techniques for men or are thinking about tinkering for the very first time, learn to love your (not so) little guy with this ultimate how-to masturbate for men guide.

Important note: people of various gender identities, including some trans women, non-binary individuals, and others, may have penises and can also read this guide for tips on getting the most out of their members.

We will discuss:

What is masturbation
Why people masturbate
The benefits and downsides of masturbation
Top masturbation techniques
The best masturbation aids
Masturbating for the first time

What is masturbation

Penile masturbating involves stroking your erect member until you orgasm. This is usually accompanied by a highly pleasurable sensation and ejaculate exiting your erection. Masturbation is perfectly healthy, and almost everyone does it.

Why do people masturbate

The reasons people with penises slap the sausage are possibly infinite, but some reasons include:

Releasing sexual tension
Being sexually aroused
Wanting to experience orgasm
Helping to fall asleep
Alleviating loneliness
Combating stress and anxiety
Finding out what pleases them best

No matter if you are alone, partnered, in a good or bad relationship, happy or sad, bored or content, chances are you will find reasons to masturbate - time to embrace it.

Health and wellness benefits of masturbation

Despite various myths about buffing the banana, masturbation (for the most part) is good for you! Check out the various benefits it can bring:

Boosts your mood
Alleviates pain
Increases focus
Improves sleep
Fights anxiety and depression
Enhances your sex life

Unlike sex, solo masturbation comes with no risk of catching STDs or getting anyone pregnant. And by boosting feel-good hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin, you will increase your overall sense of happiness.

Potential downsides to masturbation

You know what they say about too much of a good thing… The downsides of excessive masturbation can include:

Irritated or chafed skin
A decrease in sexual sensation
Potential addiction and compulsive behaviour

To avoid all of the above, be mindful of your masturbation habits and use it as a healthy outlet. And while porn can be a highly stimulating aid, try to limit your usage to a reasonable amount.

Masturbation myths

When hearing about masturbation for the first time, which usually happens in the halls of secondary school, you’re bound to encounter some myths. Time to set the record straight: here’s what masturbation doesn’t cause:

here’s what masturbation doesn’t cause

Erectile dysfunction
Vision loss
Change in size or shape of the penis
Reduced sex drive
Infertility
Hairy palms

So, masturbate away without worrying about these unfounded rumours.

How do men (and people with penises) masturbate: penile masturbation techniques

There are many ways to beat your meat and to maximise pleasure. Below is our step-by-step guide. Penile or male self-pleasure guaranteed:

1. The three-finger stroke

A classic for a reason. Simply create an OK gesture with your fingers and place it around your penis. Move your hand up and down your glans, located at the tip of your penis. As it's more sensitive than your bulb, your might find yourself cumming within minutes.

2. The whole-hand stroke

You've seen the gesture at football matches. Make a one-handed 'wanker' sign with your hand and cover your penis with it. Move your hand up and down to maximise pleasure throughout the whole penis.

3. Two-hand stroke

If you have a bigger penis or want to increase pleasure across your entire erection, try using both hands. You can vary between the three-finger and the whole hand stroke to create different sensations. By experimenting with different types of movement, you can switch up your experience.

4. Vary the speed

When wanking, be aware of your speed, By varying the intensity of your tugging, you can create different sensations and tease yourself a little.

5. Stimulate the male G-spot

Don’t be afraid to venture towards the anus! The male g-spot can be stimulated by inserting a finger (or two if you’re feeling adventurous) in your behind. A little anal stimulation can add a whole new dimension to your solo session!

Bring in the toys: tools to enhance male self-pleasure

You might be solo, but you don't have to go it alone. Grab a toy and let the fun begin!

Cock ring: Cock rings are worn around the base of the penis. By restricting blood flow, they increase the intensity of your orgasms. It is recommended not to leave them on for longer than 30 minutes.
Masturbation sleeve: A masturbation sleeve is a type of sheath that is pulled over your knob to increase sensation when masturbating and simulate the feel of a partner. It can enhance both solo time and when having sex with another person.
G-spot massager: A g-spot, or prostate, massager, is a special toy that you can use on your anus while masturbating. Insert it inside yourself and search for the male g-spot to maximise sensation.
Lube: Slip and slide your way to climax with some lube. Using lube makes ejaculating easier than ever and is especially recommended for circumcised men!

Step by Step guide to masturbating for the first time

Masturbating for the first time can be a transformative and exciting experience. However, scaling Mount Masturbation can also be a bit intimidating. Here's a step-by-step guide to help you get started:

Find a private place

Going solo is a private and intimate act, especially for first-timers. Get comfortable and find a safe and undisturbed place far away from nosy friends and family members.

Prepare for any mess

Masturbating is messy. When you ejaculate, you don’t have much control over where it lands. Cum is sticky and gets everywhere, meaning you should be prepared.

Ditch any clothes that you don’t want to get dirty, and make sure you have tissues handy to mop up any potential messes; conversely, masturbating in the shower or into a (ideally private) bathroom sink makes cleanup a piece of cake.

Get in the mood

Penile masturbation isn’t just about whacking your meat. Getting into the right mood is also a big part of it. This can involve getting naked, feeling the sensation on your body and thinking sexy thoughts. Extra stimulation, such as reading or listening to erotic stories, can also boost your libido.

Take your time

Remember, there's no rush when it comes to masturbation. Take your time, explore your body, and enjoy the experience fully. This is your first time, so don't be afraid to experiment and see what feels good.

Conclusion

Whether you’re an experienced masturbator or a first-time fapper, the benefits and fun of polishing your bannister are limitless. Remember: there’s always more to learn about your body and how to pleasure it!

FAQs

When do boys (and people with penises) start masturbating?

Boys typically learn how to masturbate at the start of puberty, although it can start even earlier.

How often do men masturbate?

It depends on the person! Some people masturbate more than once a day, while some may only masturbate once or twice a month, even less or not at all. The average (British) person with a penis masturbates 174 times a year.

How often should a man masturbate?

According to researches at Harvard University, the average man should cum at least 21 times a month to mitigate prostate cancer risk.

Can you masturbate with a condom?

Colloquially known as a ‘posh wank’, condom usage helps to decrease mess and can help you become more intimate and confident with putting on protection before sex.

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